Every single day we get up with expectations of ourselves based on our past. We all have things that have happened in our lives that we automatically assume are likely to happen again in our future. If you failed in some way, in business or otherwise, you've probably got some kind of an experience of your abilities based on this outcome, right? And so you automatically challenge yourself and play for targets based on a subconscious comparison to these experiences of failure. This is the same for all of us.
As a transformational coach, I've now spent over 15 years intensely applying transformational work on myself to now be coaching and enabling a whole series of powerful entrepreneurs to elevate their lifestyles and the quality of their life. During my years as a coach (and through observing myself) I've noticed that unless we have somebody to hold us to account we will generally drift back to playing it ‘safe’.
This is because the least evolved part of the brain (the reptilian part of our brain) is there to ensure that we never experience similar events again that could cause us to feel that pain again or those emotions that really frighten us.
So every day we subconsciously remember all these things, painful things, that happened to us, and the reptilian part of our brain subconsciously says to us, “Don't worry, I'll make sure you never ever get to experience those things again. I'm going to make sure you don't go to a job interview. That you don't pick up the phone to the next client. I'm going to make sure you never hear ‘No’ again so I'll make sure you never make another sales call again. In fact, why don't we just stay in bed? Why don't we take it easy? You know, it's Monday morning and it's raining so why bother at all? Let's switch on the TV or let's have a look on Facebook.” This is our brain just doing its thing; it’s keeping us safe. So how can we possibly progress with this? We can't!
If we have a coach, a coach can hold us to account. Our coach (as my coach does with me) is going to enable us to distinguish why we do what we do; why we wake up each day and remember who we truly are. Also, a coach will enable you to become clear on what is ‘living the dream’ for you. What is the goal or ambition that you have forgotten about? What is the dream you’ve given up on?
Now imagine if you had a coach who was able to have a conversation with you every week to keep these enquiries alive? Then follow each conversation by asking you, “What is the very next most important action that you can take today to fulfil this one dream ambition?” You can see how priceless such a service is. I personally can never keep my ambitions or dreams alive anywhere near as effectively as I can when receiving regular coaching.
I've now got an amazing coach. His name is Alan Kleynhans and he's absolutely amazing! I'm now working with him and he's holding me to account to stay present to why I wake up each day and maintain clarity on what actions to take.